Life

Reflection & Affirmation

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It turns out, destiny has a way of redirecting our steps to be on the right path, before we are able to move forward. Doesn’t it feel good, when we hear or read someone else’s story of a trial they were able to make it pass. It gives us a feeling of relief and hope that things will get better.
I ended a past post saying “We all have something we can do, in order to better protect our hearts and guard our love.” I took the time to do just that.

Needs. Deserves. Protects.

Reflection:

I believe there is always a lesson to be learned in disappointment and heartache. We can only learn from those lessons when we actually take the time to reflect on it. To heal from it. These past few weeks, I decided to take time to focus on my heart. To allow myself to feel the emotions and heal from it. Thinking about what it needs, what it deserves, and what I need to protect it from.

 

 

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Give it a Try: 

First: Write three affirmations about yourself.

Then: Write three things you need to guard your heart from. (Whether this is self inflicting pain, a recent disappointment, or negative energy you’ve been feeling.)

Last: Take the time to learn something about your heart, from what you wrote, and go take care of it!

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I went back and forth about sharing my story of heartache and guilt not too long ago. I wrote it and edited, edited, edited. It was in the editing process where I came to the realization: I write, first for me. Then, for someone else who may need it too.

“My grace is sufficient for you. For my power is made perfect in your weakness.” -2 Corinthians 12:9

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Writing is my therapy and my way of processing. (Besides, I went to school for this minor in writing and I better put my money to use somehow.)

I write this, first for me. Then, for someone else who may be in need of a little encouragement as they are learning how to heal just as I. This process is not easy, but it is necessary. It does not matter if someone feels I am sharing “too much” of myself. I chose to share this vulnerable piece of my life with you all because sometimes we think we’re alone. Sometimes we hold a level a un-forgiveness to ourselves. We don’t speak up about how we feel and we keep it bottled up inside. I firmly believe the trials we go through in life, not only teach us, but is a story to aide someone else. It serves a purpose beyond who we are. It shares HOPE.

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Writing is my way of release. A close friend of mine likes to listen to music. What is your way of release?

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Photos by me, during a recent solo trip across the USA, taken at Slide Rock National Park in Arizona.

 

Life

The Voice Within: Wisdom from my Grandmother

Be.

“But what is your spirit telling you?”

There I was, sharing my story of heartbreak with my grandmother, hoping she would shed some wisdom on my life. And she hits me with this question, “But what is your spirit telling you?”
I’ve never been asked that question before. I sat there in silence. I started to talk about my heart. “Yes Rae, but your heart can be swayed. Our hearts may feel one thing, but our spirit is what truly speaks to us.” As she did shed her wisdom during that conversation, I couldn’t help but replay that question in my head that whole day.

Still.

“But what is your spirit telling you?”

In search of the answer to that question, I decided to rid myself of all distractions, which came down to television, my phone, the radio, and my apartment. A friend of mine called up and we decided to hit the road. I had no expectations of what to do or see. I just wanted to be. We took a 4 hour round trip sharing life, laughs, and quietness. We hopped in and out at small towns with mountainous views, snapping pics, and feeling the waves (heat waves that is). I laughed as loud as I wanted to. Sat in silence when I needed to. Took as many pictures as my phone allowed. It was like we were journeying west, moving onward.

And listen.

On the way back home, I realized the feeling I had been missing. The feeling of being unapologetically myself. Free.

I prayed hard that night and poured my hear out. I wanted, NEEDED to hear God’s voice. And then the question whispered to me once more.

This time I knew my response, but I was afraid to answer.

I whispered to my heart, “You can do this. This time is for you. You must let go.”

Sometimes we don’t realize the answer to our question is there all along. Sometimes we must go deep within. Reconnect with spirit. It won’t come easy, but when you finally feel it. You know.

Be still, & listen.

Inspiration

The Golden 3: Letting Go

I’m a firm believer in self-reflection on who I am as a person. Inside and out. There are many areas in our life that we can work on. I say “we” because I am included and far from perfect. But imagine if we continue to better ourselves and progress in our daily lives. Oh how our world could change! This summer I’m letting go of 3 things.

1. Shopping apps and email subscriptions.

I tend to check my email a lot. So much, in fact, my boyfriend asked me to check them later one day. There’s nothing important in those emails. Nothing but stores promoting their weekend and holiday sales. Which make me spend my money. I know, I know. I could just not go to those stores, but I’m still working on that. And this is the first step. Give me time…lol.

2. Numbers in my phone that are never used.

You know what numbers I’m talking about. The contacts of people from high school, who you run into. You say you’re going to meet up “soon” and three years later neither one of you have called. Don’t forget about that person whose number you keep ‘just in case.’ Letting them all go! “New phone. Who dis?”

3. Two -words “What if?”

I’ve asked myself this question quite a few times over the past few months. Truth is, I should not focus on the “what-if.” It either did or it didn’t. The present is what’s important today. Being focused on the ‘now’ allows us to minimize distractions in our lives. We are able to decrease worry and sadness over false ideas.

I hope these three things I’m letting go of, allow me to save money and time.

Are you letting go of anything this summer? Share by dropping a comment below.

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The Golden 3 Series

The Golden 3: 3 Ways to Pull Yourself Up

 

3 Ways to Pull Yourself Up this Week

This post serves as a pleasant reminder to myself: to do things for myself that I should do, before I need to do them. My mood hasn’t been the best lately. We all have our struggles, whether they be little or big. But, I’m not going to let the mood stick. Today, and everyday, I must choose JOY! My mother always says, “Go there, but don’t stay there.” It’s about time I take her advice and climb out of the rut I’ve been feeling. So today I’m sharing my The Golden 3: 3 Ways to Pull Yourself Up and maybe they’ll come to help you too.

A Delicious Dinner 

Nothing compares to a good meal at the end of a rough day. Typically, I like to try a new restaurant. This week, I plan to try cooking a new recipe.

Private Dance Party

It may sound a little crazy. But it’s really not. Follow these 5 simple steps to DANCE IT OUT!

  1. Head to the living room.
  2. Turn it up on your favorite jams.
  3. Grab your microphone (or spatula).
  4. Let the music hit your soul.
  5. DANCE IT OUT!!

Be Still.

Finding a moment of peace is one of my best ways to pull myself out of a rut. During this time I like to reflect by writing in my journal, completing a Bible plan, reading a book, or simply laying in silence to the sound of a meditation series.

Overall, today is already looking up for me. And if you’ve found yourself to stumble across this post because you needed some ideas to help you get out of your rut, hopefully you’d give these a try.

What do you do to shift your mood? Share by commenting below.